Family wants bisexual man to marry a woman; Qtalk has advice

LGBTQ+ Nigerians benefit from the support provided by volunteer counselors via the Qtalk app, which is supported by this site and by the St. Paul’s Foundation for International Reconciliation.

The Qtalk user’s name has been changed in the following writeup, which is one of many contributed by the counselors who provide advice to LGBTQ+ Nigerians via the free Qtalk app:

Family of bisexual man pressures him to marry a woman

Ikenna, a 33-year-old bisexual man, is deeply confused as his family is pressuring him to marry a woman.

In his support request, he wrote:

“My head is spinning right now. My family is threatening to cut me off completely simply because I am refusing to marry now. The worst part of everything is that they are even suggesting who I should marry. I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man that I don’t want to lose. What do I do?”

In a response to Ikenna’s request, the counselor acknowledged that he was in a difficult situation indeed, however stated that it was entirely his decision to make, but understood that it would be a very difficult one given what was at stake.

The counselor also stated that, for the sake of his mental health, his happiness was the most important thing that should be prioritized when making a life-changing decision, such as whether to get married.

Ikenna is still in counseling trying to find ways to come up with a better way to deal with the situation.

This article is one of five that comprise Part 15 of the Qtalk series.

To download the Qtalk mobile app, click HERE.

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Written by Mike Daemon

Mike Daemon is the pseudonym of the founder and presenter of the No Strings podcasts, based in Port Harcourt, Nigeria, which provide a voice for the country’s LGBTIQ+ community. Through the No Strings website, he reports on issues affecting the lives of LGBTQ+ Nigerians. He launched and maintains the Qtalk app, which provides safe and private access to legal and psychosocial counseling for LGBTQ+ Nigerians. Contact him by email via info (at)

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